"If only this child came with a manual!"
The Uncontrollable ChildMaster Class for Parents
By Matis Miller, LCSW, ACT, DBT-LBC
A DBT-based master class for parents of children with emotion dysregulation disorders — including DMDD. Learn mindfulness, validation, limit-setting, and behavior-shaping skills to find balance between acceptance and change, flexibility and consistency, limits and love.
- 10
- Video modules
- 10 hrs
- Of instruction
- ∞
- Lifetime access
As a parent, you have the power to influence your children's lives and enable them to achieve the healthiest state possible. Childhood is the time to accept your child, build him up, protect him, defend him, and love him unconditionally — while simultaneously setting healthy limits, encouraging independence, and teaching him personal responsibility.
— Matis Miller, LCSW
What you'll learn
10 things this master class will teach you
A revolutionary approach based in dialectical behavior therapy — practical, research-backed, and immediately usable at home.
- 01
Balance extremes and become a flexible thinker
- 02
Accept your child and his or her challenges
- 03
Be a more mindful and present parent
- 04
Regulate your emotions and improve communication with your child
- 05
Let go of judgmental thoughts and feelings towards your child
- 06
Validate your child with specific concepts and strategies
- 07
Shape your child's behavior through rewards, praise, and charts
- 08
Decrease your child's problematic behaviors
- 09
Set, implement, and maintain limits for your child
- 10
Balance the needs of your "uncontrollable child" with the rest of the family
Endorsed by leaders in the field
What people are saying about The Uncontrollable Child
The Uncontrollable Child is an excellent book, one of the best, and its research-based and common-sense approach is applicable to all children and their caretakers. I truly believe it has the potential to help countless struggling parents. Read it, try it, and watch yourself change!
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D.
President, Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy · Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, University of Pennsylvania
This is an enormously helpful book for parents struggling with out-of-control kids. Grounded solidly in research, it offers practical and useful advice that can really help parents manage their own emotions and the emotions of their spirited children. Buy this book!
John Gottman, Ph.D.
The Gottman Institute · Author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Matis Miller's book is a gift for parents of sensitive, emotional, and sometimes impulsive children. A deceptively easy-to-read masterpiece that weaves together behavioral theory, dialectical principles, and evidence-based practices from DBT into loving, effective parenting strategies.
Charles Swenson, M.D.
Associate Professor of Psychiatry, University of Massachusetts Medical School
A uniquely valuable guide to parenting dysregulated children. Highly practical, evidence-based strategies firmly grounded in a deep understanding of the complex thoughts and beliefs that inform mastering the art of finding the balance between love and limits.
David Pelcovitz, Ph.D.
Straus Chair in Psychology and Education, Azrieli Graduate School, Yeshiva University
Matis Miller offers clear and thoughtful concepts and effective navigational tools for some of the most challenging issues in the province of parenting; beautifully illustrating the power of integrating opposites: acceptance and change.
Wendy Terrie Behary, LCSW
Director, The Cognitive Therapy Center of NJ · Author, Disarming the Narcissist
As an educator, I felt like we were at a coffee shop having a conversation. It kept me wanting to read more — I could not put it down. Without question worth the investment of time to read.
Jill Budinich
Licensed Educator, 24+ years · Literacy Coach, Newark Public Schools
What's inside
10 modules. Cover to cover.
Every chapter builds on the last — from understanding your child, to validating them, to setting limits that actually stick.
Based on the book
The Uncontrollable Child by Matis Miller, LCSW
- 01
Where Did This Child Come From? Understanding the "Uncontrollable Child"
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 02
Dialectical Parenting: The Road to Finding Balance
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 03
Accepting Our Children and Ourselves: Why Accept the Unacceptable?
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 04
Mindful Parenting: What It Is and How to Do It
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 05
The Power of Validation: Making the Magic Happen
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 06
Reinforcement Strategies: Getting Your Child to Change
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 07
Behavioral Charts: Making the Sticker Stick
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 08
Stopping Problematic Behaviors: Effective Punishment and Beyond
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 09
Limit Setting: Balancing Consistency and Flexibility
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
- 10
Bringing It All Together: Family Dynamics and The Road Onward
Full video lesson · ~1 hour
About your instructor
Matis Miller
LCSW · ACT · DBT-LBC
Founder & Director · Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist · Author of The Uncontrollable Child
As the father of six children and the founder, director, and supervisor of The Center for Cognitive & Behavioral Therapy of New Jersey, Matis Miller is a licensed clinical social worker and certified cognitive behavioral therapist with over 15 years of experience.
His training includes certification in CBT from the Academy of Cognitive Therapy and the Beck Institute, and certification from the DBT-Linehan Board in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. He specializes in severe emotional and personality disorders, insomnia, and anxiety in teens and adults.
He is a seasoned lecturer on CBT- and DBT-related topics, addressing parents, clients, and professionals, and is presently focused primarily on supervision, education, and consultations.
10 videos. 10 hours. Everything you need to improve the relationship with your child.
Fees & payment
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Access to the master class · one-time payment
$197
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